![]() ![]() Watch 'Lockdown Hookup,' Our New Dating Show.15 Hookup Apps for Getting Straight to Business.Steer clear of the pet names.” -Lauren, 28 Any attempt at personalization is awesome. Yes, we all put up pictures that make us look attractive, but hopefully you’re looking to actually talk to me, as well. “The most important part, for me, is that a guy opts for my profile over my pictures. I really appreciated the effort.” -Rose, 24 This one guy managed to make puns using Plato, Kant, Descartes, and Spinoza in his opening line. “In college when I was on Tinder, I had in my bio that I was a philosophy major. I prefer two questions because if I don’t want to answer one, I have a second option.” -Brooke, 30 I like when they show they’ve looked past my pictures and are taking an interest in the things I have said. Not just any questions-questions specific to my profile. “I always like when men begin with two questions. I liked the fact he was able to come up with all three, but also, in asking how he should start the convo, it acknowledges the fact that opening lines are weird for both the girl and the guy.” -Hayley 29. He sent me a cute gif, came up with a corny pick-up line, and asked if I wanted to grab drinks next Friday. “I once had a guy first message me first with, ‘Corny pick-up line, gif, or being asked out?’ It was clear he was referencing his opening line, but being the obnoxious person I am, I replied, ‘All of them.’ He then did all of them. ![]() “The best opening like I've ever heard was: 'I’m bad at this, so I’m going to buck the Tinder trend and let you make the first move, if that’s okay.'” -Ann, 29. Maybe one of these will work for you too. It bears repeating that context is everything, but who knows. Still in need of some inspiration? Some women shared the best messages they ever received on dating apps. Show that you've been paying attention and that you're curious to learn more, without coming across as demanding and entitled, or alternatively, cut loose and just have fun with your messages (which does not mean unsolicited sexual remarks). So there's your advice from the professionals. I'll go first: I watch Brooklyn Nine-Nine reruns and look at puppy memes. "For instance: If you had to choose a favorite berry, which berry would you choose? or What is one secret-single thing you do when no one is around. "In the event that you're kind of mass-messaging hotties, which let's face it, we've all done, I think asking a really unusual question can really spark someone's interest and also immediately weeds out anyone who isn't clever or doesn't have a sense of humor," she says. She adds that composing an original, attention-grabbing message is also worthwhile even if you're looking for something a little more casual. Gigi Engle, certified sexologist and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life, believes that the best way to get someone interested is to "either be goofy or really thoughtful," and much like O'Reilly, recommends paying attention to somebody's profile in order to be more specific in your opening gambit. If they say they’re busy, ask if they want to continue the conversation and if they don’t, move along." Rather than assuming that you’re entitled to their time, ask if they’re in the mood. Anyhow, let me know if you’re up for chatting today? That last part leaves it open for them to consent. Is that Valley of Fire? I’ve always wanted to visit. For example, if they say they’re into hiking and they’ve posted a few mountaintop pics, ask them about this specific interest. "Try to demonstrate that you’re not just copying and pasting a generic Hi. "Open with a line that shows them that you’ve taken the time to look through their profile," says sexologist and We-Vibe sex expert, Dr. Play icon The triangle icon that indicates to play ![]()
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